Prayer of a Wife Who Has an Evil Husband
At long last!
Prayers like this don’t make it into today’s prayer books. Now we figure that if we have an evil husband, God wants us to divorce them. Just like if you’re attracted to the wrong sex, that means that God really has decided that same-sex marriage pleases Him.
It’s so common for people to think this way that it sounds incredibly rude and heartless to say: Actually, no, God doesn’t want you to divorce your husband just because he’s evil and you’re unhappy. The reason we think God is always nice and compassionate in such a way that we’re always given whatever we want?
Because we are in an idolatrous society, and we have turned to them instead of them turning to us. We also have become idolaters.
Even though God loves the fools who live in our society, they are still fools. It is not loving to tell fools that they aren’t fools. You’re a fool if you think God wants you to get a divorce from your husband (or wife) just because they’re evil. He doesn’t want you to do that. He wants you to pray for them and trust Him to help you instead of turning to the false gods of our society that cry out against the truth as “not compassionate.”
God is compassionate: “…Your dear Son Himself has given, and extends His gracious call; to His supper leads us all. And to this our soul’s salvation, witnesses Your Spirit, Lord/ In Your Sacraments and Word./ There He sends true consolation/ Giving us the gift of faith/ That we fear not hell nor death.” “True consolation,” see; not the consoling sappy lies by which the dragon lulls you to hell, but the consolation of the Spirit who proclaims that Christ’s propitiatory death under God’s wrath is for sinners with no merit–including you.
But here is the prayer:
157. Prayer of a Wife with an Evil Husband
–Johann Quirsfeld, Archdeacon at Pirna (1642-1686). from his “Geistlicher Myrrhengarten”–“Spiritual Myrrh Garden.”
(Myrrh was an ointment which helped cure wounds; it was also used to preserve and embalm the dead. So the book is a ‘spiritual medicinal garden’ so to speak.)
Oh merciful God and Father, all-knowing Lord, You know my misery better than I can express it in words or lamenting or complaints. My spouse, whom at one time You gave to me, is sadly living in an indefensible way, and with him I carry a heavy cross in my house almost every day. It is so severe that I don’t know what I should do in such a wretched and sad state of affairs, because Satan, hounding me, makes the holy estate of marriage with my wayward husband exceedingly bitter. We cannot separate from one another, because we were joined by you in such a way that nothing but death alone can separate us.
Now I turn myself to you, Lord my God. Without Your counsel and will, and without Your permission, nothing can happen. So I must consider this bad behavior of my spouse a cross made specially for me, for I admit that in other ways before You I have certainly been to blame. But still give me patience towards it. Assist me to bear it with your fatherly hand, rich in love. Let us not forever live with each other in such disgust, but instead rule the heart of my spouse, that he would become different, and offer himself up as a pious Christian wife is entitled to expect and as is due her. Govern the tormenting marriage-demon and other wicked mouths, through which my spouse would often be ensnared. Plant upright fear of God in his heart, and also honest, wholehearted love toward me, that by it we may from now on live in peace and unity with one another. Grant us so to continue in our household affairs and daily bread, that we walk as obedient children according to Your commandments, and that we might be and remain the blessed of the Lord, here in time, and one day, there in eternity. Amen.
- A husband’s prayer after his wife has delivered a stillborn child (1752) (deprofundisclamaviadtedomine.wordpress.com)
- When Your Husband Flirts with Other Women and Handling Jealousy (peacefulwife.com)
- Why A Husband Struggles To Pray With His Wife? (peacefulwife.com)
- Marriage under attack – Fight back in prayer (mapenzinandoa.wordpress.com)
- Nil by Mouth (njorogejustus.wordpress.com)
- Does God Care That I’m Hurting? (preciousprodigal.wordpress.com)
- Love’s Final Proving Ground (peacefulwife.com)
- What divorced readers did with their wedding rings (bbc.co.uk)
- Four Online Books about Prayer – including How to Pray for a Wife, Husband, or Children (rodiagnusdei.wordpress.com)