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It Is God’s Deed–Wedding Sermon

Pear-Tree-blogWedding of Tina and Kyle

Wilder Park, Elmhurst, Illinois

St. Matthew 19:4-6, Genesis 2, Psalm 127

June 15, 2013

“It is God’s deed”

Jesu juva!


Dear Tina and Kyle,


Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.


Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain.  Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain.  It is in vain that you rise up early, and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil, for He gives to His beloved sleep.  Psalm 127:1-3


You are not building your house today.  You are not marrying yourselves today.


Today God is doing something.  Today God is bestowing a gift.


God is uniting you, Tina and Kyle, in one flesh.  They are no longer two but one flesh.  So what God has put together, let not man separate.


When God gave the first man the first woman, it wasn’t the man’s idea.  It was God who said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.”  God did not say, “Go out and find yourself a companion.”  After Adam came to realize there was no suitable helper for him, God did the work of making and forming the woman, His wife.  Even today in this fallen world men still have to admit that woman was a very good gift of God.


Most men and women spend a lot of time and energy trying to be united in one flesh to someone else, with or without marriage.


It would be a whole lot easier if He would just give us the right person.


And today that’s what God is doing.  He is giving you to each other and making you one flesh.


He gives you to each other and makes you one flesh through His Word.  For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.  As God did with Adam and Eve, so He is doing with you.


After He did the first marriage, we are told that this would be an ongoing way of life.  A man would leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two would be one flesh.


In a moment, when you acknowledge the estate of matrimony that God ordained and give your consent and vows to one another, God will, according to His Word, make you one flesh till death parts you.


Before now you loved each other and felt that you were meant for each other, but you had not yet been given to each other by God.  But from this point it will not be your own choices and emotions that are the basis of your union.  Your marriage will be created by God’s Word.  A man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will be one flesh. 


Which means from this day forward, for better or worse, richer or poorer, no matter how you feel, when you look at your spouse you will be looking at the man or woman with whom God made you one flesh.


Since it wasn’t your doing, it won’t be yours to undo either.


That means that although you have to live out your calling to one another, to love one another, it doesn’t depend on you.  God has done it.  He said you are one flesh in His Word.


He has made you one flesh for your blessing.  That is true just as much in your faults and sins, in the unhappy times of marriage as in the joyful ones.


God knows better than us what kind of husband or wife we need.  He knows how to make your wife or your husbands’ faults into a blessing for you.


You are put together as a gift, to comfort one another, to love and delight in one another, to know and be known in soul and body, to be vessels through which God creates life when it pleases Him.


But even when your spouse is making you uncomfortable, remember that God gave you this person and made you one flesh.  And He did that because He loves you too, because He knows also what pain is necessary for you to keep your sinful nature on a leash.


Adam and Eve didn’t have that, but they gave it to their kids.  And that nature is always out to destroy or throw away every good gift God gives us.  He gives us the gift of a wife or a husband out of love toward us, with perfect wisdom, and so often when things become difficult we begin to wonder whether God gave us this person after all, to doubt whether or not he or she was a good gift, to doubt whether God really means to do good for us at all.


God who gives you to one another today and who makes you one flesh today desires nothing but the highest good for you today.  And that is not because He is unaware of your sins and that you deserve punishment.


He has seen all of it and freely forgiven it, paying for its forgiveness with the death of His Son, who is the bridegroom of the church.  Out of love He died to cleanse the sins of His bride and make her radiant and beautiful in His sight.


Just as He says you are one flesh today, the two of you, He also says that you who were born in sin are righteous and bear your sins no more.  And it is so.


In your baptism He says you are His radiant bride, all sin covered by the white wedding garment of your heavenly bridegroom’s righteousness.


That was His doing, even though you were still a sinner and many times lived as if nothing had changed for you.  Yet what He said was and is so.


So with your marriage today.  You are one flesh.  You might not always feel like it or look like it.


You are a gift to one another.  It will not always look like it or feel like it.


But God has given you to one another.  And since God is the God who loved you so as to give His Son to the death of the cross for you, you can be assured that He knows how to give good gifts when He gives a spouse.


He has promised this, and He will do it.  But today we call on Him to do as He has promised and to bless your marriage.  Since the Lord has promised to build your house, you have a good foundation and the promise that the master builder will complete what he has started.


Don’t depend on your own love or your own work.  Do that you are called to do—love one another.  But above all, remember God’s promise to make you one flesh and bless you through one another.  Call on Him to fulfill it and believe that He will never fail to keep His Word.


The peace of God, which surpasses understanding, keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.


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